Wednesday, November 24, 2010
Dear Mr. Etiquette-Person, When someone informs you that they are "courting", what is the proper response?
Wondering in Wenatchee
Dear Wondering, Before I suggest what you should say, let me begin by indicating what you should not say: "Congratulations!" Given that the commencement of courtship is merely the beginning of a process, it's a bit premature to congratulate someone for doing so. It's kind of like congratulating a race-car driver for starting his engine before the big race ("Hey Jimmie Johnson, good job!!!") Better to say something like, "Thanks for letting us know, we'll be praying for you" and save the congratulations for the the announcement of the engagement.
Dear Mr. Etiquette-Person, Then why did you "congratulate" a couple last evening when you heard that they were courting?
Still Wondering in Wenatchee
Dear SWiW, Because I am, as the Monty Python troupers were fond of saying, "a silly person."